As we all know, to be successful in life you must learn to balance many different areas. While being successful in one area of life is great, what brings true satisfaction is when we excel in all area. We all know the business man that makes a lot of money, but has a crumbling marriage and no real relationship with his kids. The truth is that when we lack balance in life any success we may experience will probably be short-lived.
I am often asked questions similar to these:
How do you find time to do everything in your day?
How do you keep the time with your family from suffering because of your work obligations?
What’s the key to staying focused on your spiritual life, family life and business life while staying balanced?
I believe these questions are asked so regularly because it’s something we all struggle with. This struggle exists because deep inside we all know that without balance we are not happy, and consequently, lack true success. Finding balance has been a difficult thing for me over the years and I never stop looking for ways to improve in this. Leading and operating over a half a dozen businesses, being a husband, a father to my two children and maintaining my relationship with Christ are all areas that require my balance.
One of the best ways I have found balance is by creating blocks in my life. Instead of envisioning a calendar with time blocks I like to think of these as actual compartments. Thinking of my life in compartments or blocks has helped me create boundaries that must be present in order to achieve true balance.
To keep it simple, let’s look at two of my more prominent blocks, Family and Business. First, I determined what times of the day would allow the most quality time spent with my family. I personally came to the conclusion that during the weekdays it was important to be home for dinner, to spend the evening with the kids and help put them to bed at night. Once I established this block a boundary was created.
Now I could create a block for my business. Working late into the evenings was no longer an option for this block as that would violate the boundary that I had already created, however the difference between me leaving the house at 8 a.m. or 5 a.m. would not affect my time with the kids. By creating a work schedule where I would arrive earlier rather than staying late I was able to work more hours on certain days without it effecting other blocks in my life.
You may be wondering how this differs from a basic calendar. For me the difference has been night and day. When I was able to visualize my life with the perspective of setting up boundaries it kept me from continually crossing the line. Before using the block system I would make time for my family, but I would constantly be on the phone, checking emails and sending texts (doing what should be done in the work block). By looking at my life from the perspective of compartments or blocks I am able to hold myself accountable and prevent one block from flowing into another. Of course there are areas in which your blocks will share time, such as family and spiritual, or personal and family times. However, for the areas that should be separate, the block approach has helped me set and remain committed to keeping the necessary boundaries.
While this is a basic technique, I have found that some of the biggest changes in my life have come from implementing very basic, easy-to-follow systems. I hope that you can take this technique and apply it to your life and create more balance!
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