I don’t even know why I asked the question. The answer was obvious before the words left my mouth.
“Who wants to get ice cream?”
Of course my kids answered the same way any of us would….“ME, ME, ME, ME!!” I quickly noticed the glare coming from my wife sitting next to me. I guess I should have run the thought by her first, but hey it is summer and they needed it! Of course it had nothing to do with my cravings.
The answer to my original question was very predictable; however, what happened next caught me by surprise. My son and daughter began to beg, but not for ice cream. They were pleading with me to not have to ride in their car seats. What?! Where did this come from? Over and over again they would beg, “Please let us not use our car seats!” So I gave in and let them ride without them.
I told them they were crazy, and if they didn’t listen they would get nothing. If you do not have kids take note, ice cream is a great bribe!
Immediately my mind began to wander and think of all the times I have begged, pleaded and wished for things in my own life. Things that seemed to be such a great idea at the time, but I was told no or the door of opportunity was shut. I thought of times that I have mentored people and advised against decisions that were as wrong as a 3 year old not riding in a car seat.
Much like the story told in Blessing or a Curse, getting the answer of NO is not always a bad thing. Think back on examples in your own life where a door was closed or the answer was no. Often you will find that the closed door was a blessing keeping you from trouble on the other side.
Let this example of the car seat stick with you as it has with me. When opportunities are lost and you do not get the answer you had hoped for, keep a positive attitude. Surround yourself with others that are willing to tell you the truth and that are not afraid to point out your blind spots. Similar to a parent with a child, often it’s not the lack of intelligence that puts us at harm, but the lack of experience. You can choose to learn from your own experiences or choose to learn from both yours and those before you. The latter is the smoother road!
What is an example in your life when a door was closed to you, but you later realized it worked out for the better? Click here to leave a reply.