Toddlers and Tiaras…have you seen the television show? If you haven’t, watch this short video to get the idea.
While at first this may seem funny, it doesn’t take very much time until most begin feeling disgusted! For me the disgust is toward the parents of these toddlers. Clearly they are trying to live out their dreams at the expense of their innocent, unknowing child.
We all know other examples of this. Like the parent that pushes their kid in sports past the child’s own level of enjoyment. The daughter that is pressured her whole life to take her place among the long family history of doctors or the son who feels forced to take over the family business, abandoning his own dreams so that his father’s might carry on. I believe the reason this bothers us is because parents are the ones who are supposed to sacrifice for their children and do everything they can to help them pursue their dreams! Parents must learn that their children are not an extension of themselves, but that they are their own person with unique abilities and desires for their life.
The reality is that many of us are living our lives for someone else. In fact, I would wager that the majority of us are still caught up in living our lives based on the opinions and expectation of those around us. When we allow the thoughts and opinions of others to shape what and how we do things we are essentially letting them live our lives. Please understand that I am not talking about the moral and ethical convictions we have. I am speaking of making decisions based on the expectations and desires of others when they conflict with what we were meant to do and who we were meant to be. For example, a multi-millionaire may continue to work and not allow him or herself to take time and enjoy the fruits of their labor because they are concerned that others will not find them wealthy enough. Ridiculous I know, but it happens every day! You may be thinking, “not me!” And I hope it’s not you, but if I am honest I catch myself living for others more than I care to admit.
I know people that work out well past the point of being healthy without any goal of competing for any fitness competitions. And I have to wonder why.
I see people that maintain such restricted diets and refuse to occasionally enjoy food even when they are in great shape. And I wonder why.
I hear people complain about the job they hate to go to, and yet do nothing to strive to do something they love. And I wonder why.
I see people that clearly can’t afford what they already own, yet continue to max out credit cards and incur debt. And I wonder why.
I know extremely wealthy individuals that still work overtime and complain of stress when they clearly don’t need to. And I wonder why.
I can give many more examples, but I think you get the point.
So the question I would ask is: Who’s life are you living? Are you making daily decisions that bring you closer to your goals in your life? And maybe a better question would be: Are your goals really yours or are they goals that you have made so that you can live the life others have made you believe you should live?
Please be encouraged to live YOUR life! We only have a short amount of time on this earth. God has only given you a limited amount of time to accomplish what you were created for. Don’t waste your time living someone else’s dream, accomplishing someone else’s goals and living someone else’s life! So give yourself freedom to live, freedom to dream and freedom to act upon your inner yearnings. When you do, life will never feel more successful!
I want to hear your story! Describe a time when you chose to let go of the expectations of another so that you could pursue your own dreams. Click here to leave a reply.