The first time I heard this phrase it caught my ear. How could I be anything other than me? Well, the fact of the matter is that few of us really live out who we are deep at our core.
Each of us was created uniquely and for a specific purpose that no one else can fulfill. But, rather than fostering the unique characteristics of who we are meant to be, too often we find ourselves in a comparison game trying to become that which we think is expected of us. We all know the examples and many of us live through them daily. For many women this comparison revolves around their body or the fashions they wear. Men are concerned about the car they drive, house they own, etc. If we are outgoing we try to be more reserved. If we are introverts we think there is something wrong with us. The examples go on and on as we all push toward looking and acting the same, as if there is only one normal and all other behaviors and appearances are out of bounds.
The same is true in business and leadership. It seems like everyone wants to be like someone else. Instead of focusing on their natural strengths they focus on trying to be like the leader before them or like others in their organization. We’ve all known great people with wonderful traits that we enjoy being around, and then we see them in their professional setting and they become unrecognizable because they are striving to be just like their predecessor. When you think about influential leaders and businessmen almost everyone thinks of Steve Jobs. Known as one of the most innovative leaders of our time, Jobs did not receive this prestige by trying to be like someone else. The best leaders are those that are able to be genuine as they operate within their natural strengths.
In my business I have talents and strengths that are different than my business partner, Mark. Because Mark is stronger at certain things than I am, I used to find myself trying to become something I am not. I would compare myself to him and at times even believed I couldn’t add value. Why? Because I was comparing myself to his natural strengths. Once I got over this and decided that I would be the best Jeremy that I could be and pursued adding value in the areas of my natural talents, I found success. So, instead of us both trying to be and do the same things, we are able to utilize our unique and complementary strengths to grow the business together.
When you are simply you, life is the most enjoyable. You will achieve the greatest accomplishments of your life when you pursue who you are meant to be. God made us just how we are and a creator always knows the purpose of their creation. I want to encourage you to stop worrying about being like everyone else and be the best you. Once you capitalize on who you are the sky is the limit and your life will have the purpose you desire.
I want to hear from you! How have you experienced this in your own life? What are some ways that you have learned and fostered your own unique characteristics and abilities? Click here to leave a reply.